Tuesday 25 October 2011
Yoga Gear: PND
Yoga Gear: PND: Suffering a bit of writers block recently. Family life has been busy and not much room for the luxury of actually thinking for myself. Its s...
PND
Suffering a bit of writers block recently. Family life has been busy and not much room for the luxury of actually thinking for myself. Its something that use to really bother me, not having time for myself, for the things that I wanted to do, instead of things I had to do.
When I was pregnant with my first child, I couldn't wait to finish work. I think I went on maternity leave about 10 weeks before the baby was born. I couldn't tell you what I did in those weeks. Ahh, yes I remember now, we moved house. I packed and cleaned, and cleaned and un-packed, and then had a baby. I was lucky ( ?!) though, the day I came home from the hospital, I came home with my beautiful baby girl, and my in-laws ( for 3 months!) um, I must have missed that bit in the chapter about "coming home", one day there was just my husband and I, and the next 3 new people in the house! Crowd control please! But alas that fell on deaf ears, and it still does. I was at the hospital, waiting to be picked up, to go home, full of anxiety, about what lay ahead of me, and being crowded.
The adjustment for myself and my husband having a baby was massive. I had read the books, done the anti-natal classes, but it just didn't sink in. ( My husband didn't believe he had to read any books, and in relation to ante-natal classes, he turned up, post Melbourne Cup lunch, absolouty hammered! Good job I wasn't ready to have the baby that night! ) But, I still can't put my finger on it, the apprehension, I didn't understand, I wasn't very materal. Even as my elder daughter grew into a toddler, fell down, cried, I just would tell her to "get up", and was pretty sharp about it to. Zero compassion.
When Lilly , my eldest daughter was 9 months, I fell pregnant. I was mortified, the shock was unbelievable. I think I cried everyday for months and months. When I mentioned to the mid-wife how distraught I was , she said" never mind". So I had to deal with it. If that mid-wife had "caught me" I would have had a very different couple of years.
These days there is so much more support out there for post- natal depression, and the time lapse is only 4 years. The media is much more aware and probably social media has helped spread the word of PND support groups. It really can not be just brushed aside. This syndrome affects not just the Mother but the whole family, and extended family if near-by.
My Mothers next door neighbour's wife, her situation became fatal, the Mother jumped off North Head, and "Paul" ( name changed for privacy) has bought up their daughter who is the spitting image of her Mother. How helpless can that feel? He is really really nice man as well, so not as if he was horrible or un-caring, Through this sad case, The Gidget Foundation has been created by close friends of Paul's wife. http://www.gidgetfoundation.com.au/
Next month 13-19 November is PND Awareness week. Please be aware of any friends that have had new babies, doesn't matter if its their first, second, or third child, PND can creep up at any stage. Watch out for signs- avoiding people, not -returning calls, no getting involved in conversations, anxiety, drinking ( excessive!) not sleeping, not saying "she's having a crap day", thus not communicating... to name but a few.
Another organisation that has help, thanks to the late Gavin Larkin is RUOK Day? This year, thanks to Australian Story, he raised the profile of the importance of just asking people if they are ok. It's September 13 2012, a bit far off, but its the little thing like remebering that date that can help others, sometimes with out you realising it.
http://www.ruokday.com.au/content/what-is-r-u-ok-day.aspx
Photo care of
https://www.facebook.com/pages/Pure-Nourishment/141439374238
Just before I go, my children are well loved and I wouldn't have it another way. They are 16 months apart, the best of friends ( most of the time! ) the roller coaster days are gone, not that I still don't have hectic days with them, but that's measurable, and all justified and reasonable.
Thank for letting me share this with you.
Important links
http://www.sane.org/
http://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au/
http://www.lifeline.org.au/
http://www.lifeline.org.au/
When I was pregnant with my first child, I couldn't wait to finish work. I think I went on maternity leave about 10 weeks before the baby was born. I couldn't tell you what I did in those weeks. Ahh, yes I remember now, we moved house. I packed and cleaned, and cleaned and un-packed, and then had a baby. I was lucky ( ?!) though, the day I came home from the hospital, I came home with my beautiful baby girl, and my in-laws ( for 3 months!) um, I must have missed that bit in the chapter about "coming home", one day there was just my husband and I, and the next 3 new people in the house! Crowd control please! But alas that fell on deaf ears, and it still does. I was at the hospital, waiting to be picked up, to go home, full of anxiety, about what lay ahead of me, and being crowded.
The adjustment for myself and my husband having a baby was massive. I had read the books, done the anti-natal classes, but it just didn't sink in. ( My husband didn't believe he had to read any books, and in relation to ante-natal classes, he turned up, post Melbourne Cup lunch, absolouty hammered! Good job I wasn't ready to have the baby that night! ) But, I still can't put my finger on it, the apprehension, I didn't understand, I wasn't very materal. Even as my elder daughter grew into a toddler, fell down, cried, I just would tell her to "get up", and was pretty sharp about it to. Zero compassion.
When Lilly , my eldest daughter was 9 months, I fell pregnant. I was mortified, the shock was unbelievable. I think I cried everyday for months and months. When I mentioned to the mid-wife how distraught I was , she said" never mind". So I had to deal with it. If that mid-wife had "caught me" I would have had a very different couple of years.
These days there is so much more support out there for post- natal depression, and the time lapse is only 4 years. The media is much more aware and probably social media has helped spread the word of PND support groups. It really can not be just brushed aside. This syndrome affects not just the Mother but the whole family, and extended family if near-by.
My Mothers next door neighbour's wife, her situation became fatal, the Mother jumped off North Head, and "Paul" ( name changed for privacy) has bought up their daughter who is the spitting image of her Mother. How helpless can that feel? He is really really nice man as well, so not as if he was horrible or un-caring, Through this sad case, The Gidget Foundation has been created by close friends of Paul's wife. http://www.gidgetfoundation.com.au/ Next month 13-19 November is PND Awareness week. Please be aware of any friends that have had new babies, doesn't matter if its their first, second, or third child, PND can creep up at any stage. Watch out for signs- avoiding people, not -returning calls, no getting involved in conversations, anxiety, drinking ( excessive!) not sleeping, not saying "she's having a crap day", thus not communicating... to name but a few.
Another organisation that has help, thanks to the late Gavin Larkin is RUOK Day? This year, thanks to Australian Story, he raised the profile of the importance of just asking people if they are ok. It's September 13 2012, a bit far off, but its the little thing like remebering that date that can help others, sometimes with out you realising it.
http://www.ruokday.com.au/content/what-is-r-u-ok-day.aspx
Photo care of
https://www.facebook.com/pages/Pure-Nourishment/141439374238
Just before I go, my children are well loved and I wouldn't have it another way. They are 16 months apart, the best of friends ( most of the time! ) the roller coaster days are gone, not that I still don't have hectic days with them, but that's measurable, and all justified and reasonable.
Thank for letting me share this with you.
Important links
http://www.sane.org/
http://www.blackdoginstitute.org.au/
http://www.lifeline.org.au/
http://www.lifeline.org.au/
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